
How to be a trans ally as a cisgender LGBTQIA+ person
Being a trans ally isn't just for people outside the LGBTQIA+ community.
As a cisgendered queer person, there are so many ways you can improve your trans allyship. Together, we are stronger.
Here are some tips on how you can be a better trans ally. Use these to make sure you're supporting your trans, gender diverse and non-binary mates and family – as well as the wider community.
1. Listen to the voices of trans people
No one knows the trans experience better than trans people themselves. Some trans, gender diverse and non-binary (TGDNB) experiences will be relatable to a cisgender queer experience – but some will be completely different.
For example, there may be a common experience in feeling "othered" by society at large, but they may be for different reasons.
Another example is the idea of "passing" – that is, being perceived as a certain gender. This is often a unique trans experience, and something that cisgender people, even if they are queer, may not have experiences.
It's important to listen to trans voices, understand their experience, amplify their voices and be an advocate.
2. Recognise your privilege within the community
The LGBTQIA+ community faces high rates of discrimination. That rate increases when individuals have intersecting experiences, such as being QTIPOC, those with living with disabilities, and economic status.
Trans acceptance is in a different place societally, and our trans community is at a higher risk. Recognise this.
You can be part of marginalised community, but still experience privilege when compared to others within that community.
3. Challenge transphobic queer culture and language
Unfortunately, transphobia can still be found within the LGBTQIA+ community – both conscious and unconscious.
Take this opportunity to assess the language you use, the spaces you access, the jokes you tell, the media you consume.
It's also important to stop people and correct them when you hear crappy language. Try "calling in" – that is, inviting people to understand why what they've said is not okay and how it can make people feel, rather than just "calling them out". Sometimes, calling out can feel like you're attacking someone, while calling in invites a conversation, and helps them to better understand their mistake.
4. Be careful about outing people
Not everyone wants their trans identity discussed or disclosed.
They might feel more or less comfortable depending on where they are, who they’re with, or the environment they’re in. Ensure you respect someone’s identity.
5. Keep conversations and questions appropriate
This is an ongoing issue, and it's important to remember how much emotional labour trans people often do when it comes to educating those around them, and standing up for their own identity and existence.
Remember how personal someone’s journey can be, and how that journey is so connected to those conversations.
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